The Curious Double Standards of Narcissists

The article "The Curious Double Standards of Narcissists" by Dan Neuharth, PhD, MFT on PsychCentral.com highlights the contradictory and exhausting behaviors exhibited by people with narcissistic tendencies. Narcissists often expect freedom and entitlement for themselves while denying the same to others, creating a challenging environment for those around them. Their behavior is marked by charm in public but hostility at home, sensitivity to personal slights but insensitivity to others' needs, and an obsession with their image while undermining others. They may seek praise and superiority but are fragile when faced with criticism or failure, often reacting with either self-pity or rage.

Narcissists tend to value social status and reputation yet struggle to maintain authentic relationships, frequently leaving those close to them feeling unsupported or disappointed. Their affection is often conditional and self-serving, and they are quick to criticize or engage in conflict but resist feedback or accountability. This paradoxical mix of entitlement and deprivation, grandiosity and fragility, and righteousness and brittleness underscores the emotional toll of interacting with narcissists. Recognizing these double standards can help individuals manage relationships with narcissists more effectively.