The 4 Stages Of A Narcissistic Relationship Pattern & How To End It

A narcissistic relationship pattern involves a cycle of manipulation and control, typically following four stages: idealization, devaluation, repetition, and discard. Initially, the narcissist "love-bombs" the individual, creating a sense of admiration and making the person feel valued. This quickly shifts to the devaluation stage, where subtle criticism, passive aggression, and mind games undermine the partner’s self-worth. In the repetition stage, the cycle of idealization and devaluation recurs, causing emotional confusion and dependency. Finally, in the discard stage, the narcissist may abruptly end the relationship, employing tactics like gaslighting or hoovering to retain control. Recognizing these stages can help individuals break the pattern, prioritize self-care, and seek supportive resources for healing.