Self-Esteem Versus Narcissism

In her article Self-Esteem Versus Narcissism published in Psychology Today, Dr. Lisa Firestone emphasizes the critical distinction between self-esteem and narcissism, underscoring the importance of fostering genuine self-worth. She explains that self-esteem is rooted in real achievements, adherence to values, and empathy, while narcissism stems from insecurity, fear of failure, and a need for validation. Firestone highlights how parental behavior can shape these traits, with authentic recognition promoting self-esteem and excessive, empty praise fostering narcissism. Drawing from her book The Self Under Siege, co-authored with Robert Firestone, she elaborates on how unearned admiration leaves children feeling unseen and pressured to adopt an unrealistic self-image.

Firestone references Dr. Sheldon Solomon's terror management theory, which connects self-esteem to existential well-being. Solomon asserts that self-esteem serves as a buffer against anxiety related to mortality, while narcissism fosters aggression and social competition. The article stresses the societal role in promoting healthy self-esteem through realistic standards rather than unattainable ideals. Firestone concludes that embracing mortality and human limitations can lead to greater compassion, unity, and cooperation. Ultimately, fostering self-esteem enhances personal fulfillment and contributes to a more equitable and understanding society.