Narcissists Mixed Messages

Dr. Sharie Stines' article highlights the emotional turmoil caused by narcissists' mixed messages, which create confusion and self-doubt in their victims. Narcissists are described as consistently inconsistent, offering affection and promises one moment, only to withdraw or shift blame the next. This cycle erodes the victim’s trust in their own perceptions, leading to emotional dependence and a loss of self. The article explains how emotional abuse, often hidden from outsiders, results in confusion, external focus on the abuser, and a diminished sense of personal reality.

To break free from this destructive dynamic, Dr. Stines emphasizes the importance of reconnecting with one’s inner voice and ceasing to rely on the abuser for validation. Victims are encouraged to stop trying to appease the narcissist, as doing so is futile and perpetuates the cycle. Although asserting autonomy may provoke retaliatory behavior from the narcissist, the key to recovery lies in detachment and self-care. Ultimately, Dr. Stines advises either physically or mentally disengaging from the abusive relationship to reclaim personal peace and authenticity.

Sharie Stines, Psy.D. is a recovery expert specializing in personality disorders, complex trauma and helping people overcome damage caused to their lives by addictions, abuse, trauma and dysfunctional relationships.