Know the Kind of Narcissist You're Dealing With and Symptoms

The article by Darlene Lancer on Psychology Today outlines four main types of narcissism—grandiose, vulnerable, communal, and malignant—each with distinct behaviors, yet sharing core symptoms of antagonism, entitlement, and self-importance.

1. Grandiose Narcissists are outwardly attention-seeking, boastful, and dominating, often maintaining relationships but lacking true intimacy.

2. Vulnerable Narcissists are introverted, insecure, and hypersensitive, often showing hostility and withdrawing rather than openly seeking attention.

3. Communal Narcissists focus on appearing helpful and trustworthy, though they are still self-centered and entitled.

4. Malignant Narcissists represent an extreme, with sadistic and aggressive tendencies.

   
   

Narcissism, viewed through recent models like the Trifurcated Model and the Spectrum Model, centers on traits like antagonism and entitlement. Treatment varies: grandiose narcissists need focus on entitlement and antagonism, while vulnerable narcissists benefit from therapies that address emotional regulation. Regardless of type, relationships with narcissists tend to be harmful, and focusing on self-care and recovery is advised rather than attempting to change the narcissist.

Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT is a Codependency expert and author of the book "Dealing with a Narcissist – 8 Steps to Raise Self-Esteem and Set Boundaries with Difficult People".