Is it common for a narcissist to have a double standard?

Yes, it's very common for narcissists to operate by a double standard—one set of rules for themselves and a different set for others. This behavior stems from their inflated sense of entitlement and lack of empathy. They often believe they are special or exempt from the expectations they impose on others.

For example:

• Accountability – Narcissists may hold others to high standards while making excuses for their own failures or misdeeds.

• Respect – They might demand respect but frequently belittle or disrespect those around them.

• Honesty – While they expect full transparency from others, they may lie or manipulate the truth to serve their interests.

• Boundaries – Narcissists often disregard other people's boundaries but react with anger or defensiveness if someone crosses theirs.

This inconsistency is part of what makes dealing with narcissists challenging. Their rules shift depending on their mood or what benefits them in the moment, which can create confusion and frustration for those around them.

Does this dynamic sound familiar in the situation you're dealing with?

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