10 Things Not to Do With Narcissists

Dan Neuharth, Ph.D., MFT, writing for Psychology Today, outlines ten crucial pitfalls to avoid when dealing with narcissists. Neuharth emphasizes that narcissists thrive on manipulation, superiority, and self-aggrandizement, often using personal information against others and refusing accountability. He advises against justifying oneself to narcissists, as it invites gaslighting and further conflict. The article underscores that attempting to beat narcissists at their own game or expecting empathy and loyalty is futile, as their lack of introspection and empathy drives a relentless pursuit of attention and validation.

Neuharth's guide highlights the importance of setting boundaries and recognizing the deep-seated nature of narcissistic behavior. Rather than expecting narcissists to change or respond with fairness, the author stresses self-protection and personal empowerment. Compassion for the struggles of narcissists can coexist with safeguarding one’s mental health. The ultimate takeaway is to avoid personalizing their behavior, maintain emotional distance, and prioritize self-care when navigating relationships with narcissists.